Researchers say we cannot relax when we’re alone with our thoughts. When I first read the article by Michelle F Cortez from Bloomberg News, I thought the University of Virginia in Charlottesville researchers must be studying “typical” twenty-first century people who have not developed their spiritual life. Reading on, I discovered that though they began with college students, afterward they recruited participants from a farmer’s market and a church, and the results were the same. For some of the group tested, even negative experiences (a mild shock) were preferred to sitting idle and alone.
Even worse, “Department of Labor data show 83% of Americans do not spend any part of their day just thinking.” (I’m curious about how they came up with their data, and why our tax dollars are being spent there, but that’s another issue.)
I’ve pondered this for a couple of days, privately feeling a little superior to those tested. After all, I love time to myself and don’t need entertainment or constant contact through electronics.
Re-reading, I noticed the lead researcher, Timothy Wilson, stated, “The mind evolved to solve problems in the world, to look for dangers and opportunities to engage.”
Rather than blind evolution, I believe our minds were created, and that we were made to live in relationship with our Creator.
Light bulb moment!
Of course we don’t want to sit with an idle mind! We were created to communicate with the Word, all the time. Our minds are designed to engage, even when our bodies are still.
So, it’s not about whether or not we can sit alone in a room. It’s all about our focus.
“Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live.”
It’s not by accident that Ann Voskamp’s One Thousand Gifts has transformed so many lives. We were designed to be thankful, to look around us and see His hand, to be grateful, and to say so, either in our thoughts, spoken or written words.
Everyone I know who is rising above “impossible” circumstances seeks blessings in the ordinary of each day. And gives thanks.
When we look anywhere else, we are settling for far less than we were created for.
As I gave thanks on Thursday, and continued throughout the weekend, calling to mind people in my life I am grateful for, I couldn’t help thinking of you, dear reader.
Many are faithful friends and family. At times I hear from you and have a sense of what is going on inside your life. At times I have to read between the lines, or silences.
Others of you are strangers, connected through the wonder of words and Wi-Fi. If you’re a fellow writer or blogger, I read your words, searching your face and listening for the link between us.
My heart goes out to the young lady with the world on her shoulders, as well as the one who feels invisible. Having spent the early years of my life as a shadow, I know that land far too well.
Yesterday, we celebrated with our five-year-old granddaughter, her home packed with family and school friends to wish her Happy Birthday. I watched her efforts to relate to many different personalities, the whirl of activity, so many people and interests calling for her engagement.
When I compose my blog, sometimes the ideas and words take shape before I even sit at the computer. Other days, trying to reach out to each of you, I am frustrated, knowing I can’t touch you all at one time. Like my granddaughter, my thoughts dash this way and that, seeking an encounter that holds meaning, something that will send you from this party the better for it.
As I often do when in need of inspiration or guidance, I opened the Bible, in this case, the YouVersion app on my phone. I scanned my bookmarks and found what I would say if we could sit together on the patio, or under a palm tree, in front of the fireplace, or walking on a snowy path.
My response is to get down on my knees before the Father, this magnificent Father who parcels out all heaven and earth.
I ask him to strengthen you by his Spirit—not a brute strength but a glorious inner strength—
that Christ will live in you as you open the door and invite him in.
And I ask him that with both feet planted firmly on love,
you’ll be able to take in with all followers of Jesus the extravagant dimensions of Christ’s love.
Reach out and experience the breadth!
Test its length! Plumb the depths!
Rise to the heights!
Live full lives, full in the fullness of God.Ephesians 3:14-19 The Message
When you hear “attitude,” do you think of someone strutting, chin high – maybe even with a chip on the shoulder? Someone looking for trouble? Someone who expects everyone to get out of their way?
That’s certainly an attitude, what I call BA – bad attitude.
But in truth, we all have an attitude. Attitude is how we approach life, what we expect when we arise in the morning.
It can be an attitude of defeat, and we find it hard to get out of bed, because there is no hope, no matter what we do.
It can be fear, and we postpone or avoid whatever we dread, even if it keeps us from what we need, or from what is good for us.
It can be entitlement, thinking we deserve everything, and we are angered or upset when everything doesn’t come to us as we expect, or those around us don’t jump to meet our needs.
It can be confusion that twists and turns us throughout the day, keeping us from accomplishing what we’d hoped to do.
It can be a constant pity-party, interpreting everything that happens as proof that, “Nobody loves me. Everybody hates me,” as we sang years ago, leading to a diet of worms.
It can be living short-fused, with anger ready to singe whomever doesn’t respect us, or gets in the way of what we want life to be.
It can be a neediness that sucks the life out of relationships, and deprives children of proper nourishment from parents.
It can be a need to control that drives us to strive to take charge of everything in our lives, and usually those around us. It wears us out, and drives people away.
Clearly, the way we think makes a huge difference in how we behave.
There is a lot of talk these days about picturing what you want, believing and you’ll make it happen. That can be taking attitude to the extreme, a kind of hocus-pocus, as if we were gods who could control the world with our thoughts.
All we really have control over is our minds. We are encouraged to “take every thought captive.” It’s up to us to choose our attitude.
We can choose to let life be a praise song.
What a beautiful thing, God, to give thanks, to sing an anthem to you, the High God!
To announce your love each daybreak, sing your faithful presence all through the night,
Accompanied by dulcimer and harp, the full-bodied music of strings. Psalm 92:1-3 (MSG)
Light-seeds are planted in the souls of God’s people,
Joy-seeds are planted in good heart-soil.
So, God’s people, shout praise to GOD,
Give thanks to our Holy God! Psalm 97:11,12 (MSG)
Light seeds! Wouldn’t you love to be able to sow seeds of light into your mind that would grow and glow, giving you what you need to change your attitude?
Joy seeds to put a song in your heart, no matter your circumstances?
We can! This is the perfect season to start planting, because the seeds are giving thanks!
Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ—the Message—have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way. Col 3:15-17 (MSG)
Since I love music, I’m happy to receive the command to sing my heart out, and welcome the chance to do so. For me, singing praise turns my heart to gratitude quicker than anything else. I usually have the radio tuned to a Christian station throughout the day, and participate in the Contemporary and Spanish music ministries at our church. Without music playing, there is usually a song running in the back of my mind. I’m learning how to let the song continue, even when I’m alone and don’t feel well, or a rude, aggressive driver cuts me off on the Interstate, or my mother’s dementia makes it hard to find her in the midst of her ramblings.
Though the cherry trees don’t blossom and the strawberries don’t ripen, Though the apples are worm-eaten and the wheat fields stunted, Though the sheep pens are sheepless and the cattle barns empty, I’m singing joyful praise to God. I’m turning cartwheels of joy to my Savior God. Counting on God’s Rule to prevail, I take heart and gain strength. Habakkuk 3:17-18 (MSG)
A deep revelation of the value of giving thanks came from Ann Voskamp’s book, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are, HarperCollins Publishing. I can’t recommend it highly enough. You can read her blog at http://www.aholyexperience.com.
My youngest daughter and her family have fun ways to give thanks before meals. My favorite is everyone clapping out, “I’m thankful for, I’m thankful for, I’m thankful for.” Then they point both hands to one person at the table who gets to say what or whom they are thankful for at that moment. Even the three-year old loves to participate, and the chant goes on until everyone has had a turn.
The more opportunities we build into our day to remember to be thankful, the more the attitude of gratitude will grow and mature in us.
Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (MSG)